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We have all seen those quiet couples on a date. Both are on their phones or staring out the window with seemingly nothing to talk about. It doesn't mean there is no love. It could just mean they need a little refresher on keeping the relationship fresh. Here are some tips.
Change Up Your Routine
Familiarity can cause a rut. Small changes like a new activity, restaurant, or holiday spot can make all the difference. Not only will it get you out of your comfort zone, but it can also give you fresh things to talk about.
Don't Shy Away From Direct Questions
Assumptions are never okay and sometimes when you're with your partner for a long time, you assume they know how you feel or what you're thinking. This can stop you two from connecting. Don't be afraid to ask the questions you asked in the beginning. Are you happy? What is your current biggest fear? What are your hopes for the next 5 years? What can I do to make your life better? These questions will get the conversation flowing again.
Open Up
Share your thoughts. Delve deep into what's on your mind, volunteer information, share what's bothering you. Don't be afraid to share your difficult and negative thoughts, as well as the positive ones.
Keep the Lines of Communication Open
The little connections you have throughout the day are the building blocked for the bigger and healing conversations. Stay in touch and keep connected to each other, whether that's a quick talk in the morning, sending text messages, or just having an occasional impromptu phone call. The little gestures make a big difference on the long run.
Be Present When Communicating
When your partner is opening up to you, put down your phone or any other distraction and give your full attention.
When you have been together for a long time, conversation can slip a bit. Don't stress it, just focus on reconnecting.
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