How many times have we said it... every single parent is different and every single child must be parented differently.
That idea translates to discipline, as well. Certain practices work better for certain kids than they do for others.
That also includes parents. Each parent has their own unique discipline style.
Did you know that these differences may be partly due to socioeconomic status?
A study outlined by Phys.org explains that some parents who feel left behind in society are more prone to authoritarian discipline techniques.
Justin Worsham of The Dad Podcast thinks these findings may be connected to perception of work ethic and effort.
"I am trying to figure out why making less money, or perceiving that you make less money, would make you more inclined towards disciplined or obedient children. My guess would be that it would come from a sense of having to fight or work for what you have. Most people want a better life for their kids so it would stand to reason that they would feel that this would take a lot of effort and focus to climb the income ladder. Both traits that require discipline.
The upper class could feel like they have accomplished more and therefore can “rest on their laurels." What is interesting is that I could argue that I have seen many examples of upper class families who have children with little discipline and what comes from that is a sense of entitlement and a lack of perspective to work for and earn what they have. Or do I see that like a Rorschach because I grew up in the middle class and would qualify myself as a middle class family? However, based on my income I am in the Upper Class. But what this study shows is that my perception matters. And the interesting part will come now that I looked up and learned that I am in the upper class. Will I lose my interest in discipline?"
On a similar note, Greenville News reports that South Carolina is considering a bill regarding free range parenting.
Although Gary seems to think that means that people are considering raising their children like livestock in a pasture, that is not what it means at all. It is actually about leaving kids at home and allowing for more moments of independence, a practice that Justin Worsham is a fan of.
"Personally I am for Free Range Parenting. The research I have seen shows that kids of parents who are more authoritarian and let kids figure things out with restrained and purposeful guidance are more content and successful.
The interesting part about this is what it does when the law puts a number on it. The points made about the developmental age of a child effecting their ability to be at home alone is valid. On the other hand, if we can set an age for drinking and voting in this country, why can’t we do the same for being home a lone? Being afraid to leave your kid home alone is a natural fear, but like all fears, it can be confronted by focusing on preparing your child for the world. But when you allow your desire to hang on to your kid’s youth for either what you perceive to give them a better life, or for you to hang onto the purpose of being a parent and needed, you unintentionally make the transition from your house and into their own lives more difficult."
To hear more of Justin's take on discipline styles, free range parenting, and other parenting topics, you can check out all of his stuff at The Dad Podcast.