Coffee Date's Are a Good Thing

Many women like to see a man sacrifice for them. Spending money on an official date makes some women feel that they are being courted. It’s an age-old mating strategy that may not always apply in today’s times when many women earn more money than men.

1. Coffee Dates are a great way to decide if you’d like to have a real date. Think of them as a cute-meet, a first sighting. It’s far less pressure than a long evening date.

2. Dating apps, mean that complete strangers are often meeting for the first time, often never having even spoken on the phone. Neither partner knows what they are getting into. A twentyminute coffee date gives everyone an exit strategy if the date is a disappointment.

3. High-Value women are busy. Their time is precious. Donating an entire evening to a stranger whom you’ve met on an app, sends the message that you have nothing better to do. The less available a woman is, the more her value goes up.

What if you don’t like the date suggestion for a first date?

It depends. If a woman has few boundaries and says yes to everybody and everything been learning to be selective is important. On the other hand, if the woman is protecting herself from intimacy by being way, too choosy at the beginning, then it might be time to take a risk and do something out of her comfort zone.

Here’s how to suggest an alternative date idea:

Make a communication sandwich. Begin with a layer of positivity and then insert the thing that’s harder to say, and then finally, follow it up with another positivity. This keeps the listener from getting defensive. You might say something like: “That sounds like a great idea, but I don’t think I’m ready to try that yet. How about we go (add event) ? No matter where we end up, it’ll be fun to hang with you.”